For lesbian couples, all the earlier dynamics of family of origin are present with the additional challenge of negotiating self-determined gender roles. There is freedom to be found in this and this can be exhausting due to limited external support. Isolation can undermine any couple’s capacity to negotiate inevitable conflict. This is especially true when the gendered expectation is female solidarity and unity against sexist oppression. In my couples work with lesbians, we build a vitalizing working relationship. Our safe, empowering alliance frees you to explore difficult conversations and find more full expression of both of your needs. Once more clearly understood, the continuum of need for connection to autonomy can be better fulfilled in and out of the relationship with your joint support. We fully tap the power of your loving relationship!